Date Posted 02-05-13
Stephen Twigg was Diana’s life coach and masseur. Twenty
years ago, he was one of the named sources in Andrew Morton’s
controversial book, Diana: Her True Story. Now Stephen has
written his own book, "Diana, Her Transformation" in which he
reveals the secrets of Diana’s personality and how she changed
from being a suicidal, bulimic young woman trapped in a loveless
marriage and a suffocating royal system to a strong, solo
performer on the world stage. From December 1988 until her
death on 31 August 1997 Diana, Princess of Wales, was
engaged on a quest for self-improvement. Fifteen years after her
death, Stephen, tells the story of her powerful journey.
Here he gives his first interview about his book:
Why did you decide to write your book Diana: Her Transformation after such a long time?
I believe in right timing. A year or so after her death I’d outlined in detail that part of the story which dealt with my work
with Diana because I believed no one else could explain accurately what her personality was or how it affected the
events people thought they understood. I also knew she was an amazingly courageous woman whose journey could
inspire others. Every time I considered actually writing the book, however, it didn’t feel right to do so, until the end of
last year when it just felt clear to go ahead. I’m glad I did, not least because I’ve been able to counter the long
standing idea that Diana was mentally unstable — something which is still being perpetuated even now.
Your book details the part you played in that transformation. How would you sum up your role?
Initially I was a catalyst who helped Diana see possibilities beyond the trap she felt she was in and enabled her to
take the first steps towards freedom. Over the seven years we worked together I was a guide and coach in the
process and techniques we used to help her change what she believed about herself and her life.
You describe Diana as having "INFP" personality traits. What does this term mean and how does this help us to
understand the complexities in Diana?
INFP refers to Introverted intuitive Feeling Perceiving, a term used to describe idealists who are focused on making
the world a better place. INFPs are highly intuitive about people, they make decisions by reference to their feelings
and their intuition which makes it difficult for them to make impersonal judgements. To those who discount emotions
and think things through in a linear fashion INFP individuals like Diana are difficult to understand or take seriously.
You describe her life in 1988 when you first treated her as in a trap. Did you ever imagine she would escape from it?
Didn’t she repeatedly see a new man, e.g. James Hewitt, Oliver Hoare, Hasnat Khan, as a potential way forward?
It was Diana who believed she was trapped. One of the first things I did was reframe that belief so she could see she
had much more ability to influence the situation she was in than she thought. It took her a long time though to alter
her deeply held belief that a man, who she could support by providing a home and family, would give her life purpose.
Prince Charles in fact was the first in the line of those she thought might be the one to do so, but over time her
perception of herself and relationships changed. Hewitt and Hoare were archetypal rescuers she was attracted to
because of their sympathy for her situation. She believed her powerful feelings for them were genuine love rather
Hasnat Khan was not a rescuer. He was the first man who offered her the possibility of a relationship based on a
more equal partnership and similar aspirations — to help and care for the sick and dying. By the time she met and fell
in love with him she was a powerful woman in her own right on the world stage as an acknowledged humanitarian
campaigner. He had no time for the high media profile she had, something she’d already begun to question the need
for. Diana saw with Hasnat the possibility of a life continuing her work with a lower profile alongside someone with
whom she could share the intimate family home with more children her psychological make-up demanded.
Diana’s eating disorder, bulimia, almost ruined her health. Your treatment helped her recover from it, but you
indicated she was never totally cured. Why was this so?
Bulimia is a complex condition which has at its core a strategy around food that enables sufferers to cope with
situations that provoke feelings of helplessness, poor self-image, frustration and anger. These feelings are largely
based on underlying beliefs and assumptions about the self acquired without volition in childhood and early life. Even
when new beliefs and feelings are acquired by choice later on in adult life, and the coping strategies become more
appropriate as a result, there is always the possibility that certain extremely stressful situations will trigger the old
responses. Diana was wise enough to know this and throughout her life sought help and insight from leaders in the
field — both as a way to reinforce her own recovery and ascendance over the condition, but also as a way of
acquiring information she could share with other bulimics and anorexia sufferers she met during her work.
Do you think Charles and Diana were incompatible on a personal level? Was there a chance that the public level of
the royal marriage could have continued if both had tacitly agreed to having other partners in private? Did her
jealousy of Camilla rule this out?
Yes, they were incompatible. Diana would have to have been a completely different personality type to have been
able to acquiesce to a marriage of convenience. Such an idea went entirely counter to everything she was. Diana’s
entire make-up demanded total and genuine commitment from her partner in a mutually loving relationship with a
husband she could support by making a home and having a family for him. Diana’s feelings about Camilla ranged
from jealousy against the woman who was recipient of the love she was not entitled to, and intense anger and
resentment at both Camilla and Charles because she believed they had colluded to cynically mislead her and so
tricked her into the marriage.
Although Diana felt tremendous concern for other people, she showed no real sympathy for Charles. He didn’t have
the happiest of childhoods and he hated being sent to Gordonstoun, a Scottish boarding school. Why couldn’t she
give Charles the kindness she showed others?
See above. All the time she was in a sham of a marriage because of what she believed Charles had done to mislead
her she could not let go of her anger at him, although she was able to show him sympathy later when they were
Why were you sacked by Charles’s office after your contribution to Andrew Morton’s Diana: Her True Story in 1992?
Why did Diana recall you into her life?
Almost certainly I was sacked because I had openly contributed to press articles about Diana just after the book was
published and which supported what it revealed. By doing so I provided the opportunity for those who opposed Diana
to force my departure. As beleaguered as she was at that time, Diana would have been unable to resist their demand
that she should let go of someone who, in their eyes, was the source of much of her rebelliousness and strength. As
soon as the details of her separation from Charles were agreed at the end of 1992 she had the freedom to act more
independently and one of her first acts of independence was to telephone me and ask me back to work with her so
she could have my support and help in the process of transformation she was experiencing.
Oliver Hoare, a married art dealer, was the subject of many silent phone calls, later traced to Diana. You are sure
that she temporarily quit public life in December 1993, not because of sneak pictures of her taken at a gym as
everyone was led to believe, but because she wanted to free herself for more time with Oliver Hoare. What makes
you so sure?
It’s important to be specific about the events such as these from Diana’s life. Calls to Oliver Hoare were traced to
phones in and around Kensington Palace that Diana could have had access to and she undoubtedly made some,
even many, of the silent calls. But given the activities of the British security services and the animosity towards Diana
from many highly placed individuals at that time, it is entirely within the bounds of possibility that she was, as she
always maintained, not responsible for all of the calls, nor were there anything like as many as was reported in the
Spending more time with Hoare was to be the first step to eventually making a life with him. When I saw Diana
immediately after her "time and space" speech—when she withdrew temporarily from public life at the end of 1993—
she remarked, "Well, now he knows I'm willing to give up everything for him." At the time Oliver Hoare, was living apart
from his wife. Although Diana's dreams began to crumble when he returned to his wife a few weeks later, at which
time the silent calls to the Hoares' family home resumed.
How would you describe Diana’s relationship with Fergie (Sarah, Duchess of York)? Friends or rivals?
The period they were both in the royal family together encompassed the years during which Diana was engaged in
an intense process which was transforming her physically and mentally. As a result their relationship was complex
and shifted over that time, from friendship through an alliance, to rivalry and back again until Sarah became a source
of great comfort and support for Diana until their final break.
Why did Diana fall out with so many people — loyal friends, family? Personality or stress or both?
There were two main reasons. One was that Diana’s situation in the royal family, especially in the year leading up to
her divorce when she fell out with many of those who had been close to her, had resulted in her feeling extremely
vulnerable, even at risk. It was an unbelievably stressful time for her and her need was for complete and
unquestioning support from those who professed to have her interests at heart. If she sensed she was not receiving
that support or was being criticised, she reacted badly.
The second reason was that by then she had been in her process of transformation for seven years. Despite the
stress and occasional periods of doubt she was mentally and physically stronger than ever before and could see her
escape from her situation becoming a reality. Many of those with whom she fell out found it difficult to acknowledge
her strength and determination and they simply fell by the wayside, unable to alter their own attitudes towards the
new Diana. This was something I had warned her would happen.
How would you describe her journey from when you met her in 1988, and then parted company in 1995? Did you
follow her progress from 1995 through 1997? Can you describe your feelings when you heard of her death? What is
Diana’s lasting legacy?
Diana’s journey was an amazing achievement of courage, strength of will and determination in circumstances so
difficult and complex they can barely be imagined by most people. Diana’s transformation continued after I stepped
away but I was not aware of the details until I researched my book Diana: Her Transformation this year. On 31 August
1997 I was in Spain writing The Kensington Diet and its companion cookbook when a client from London telephoned
me in the early hours to tell me about the crash in Paris. When I heard of Diana’s death a few hours later I was deeply
saddened and disappointed that she had not created the life she’d envisioned for herself when we were working
together, although I subsequently discovered that only a few hours before she died she described the plans she had
just made to fulfill the vision she had set out to create.
Diana’s real legacy lies in the subtle changes she brought about in the minds of so many of those who recognised
the genuine love and compassion she brought to her role. In simple terms she inspired people to love more and gave
them permission to share their love more. That legacy is subtly but emphatically altering our society as surely as the
new beliefs she acquired during our work together altered her own outlook and life as a result.
As a final thought, do you think she could have had a future with Dodi Fayed?
It's possible, their psychological makeup was almost certainly very similar and I believe they shared an immediate
empathetic connection because of that. By the time they met Diana was very confident in her ability to make any
humanitarian role work but she was still looking for the other side of her ideal life — a partner who would be entirely
committed to her and who had the resources to provide her with the physical, emotional and financial security she
needed to be able to live happily and safely outside the royal family. In my opinion it's likely that Dodi, with the a l-
Fayed resources at his disposal, made available from an adoring father, would have been able to be the partner
In turn, the work she was driven to do would have given Dodi’s life the purpose and meaning it lacked. Six hours
before she died Diana implied a committed relationship with Dodi, when she described her plans in a phone call to
her friend the journalist Richard Kay: she was going to withdraw from all high profile humanitarian work and Mohamed
al - Fayed; Dodi's father would fund a charity to help victims of land mines, the campaign Diana was involved in at the
time. Dodi and his father would also help her raise the funds to sponsor and support a series of hospices around the
world. In effect it was a scenario which fitted precisely what she had envisioned, the life of a private person enjoying a
loving relationship while she did low profile but meaningful humanitarian work which would make the world a better
place — work completely suited to her empathetic and caring nature.
" Hello Everyone,
I have decided to speak about the interview with Stephen Twigg, someone I was close enough to trust to
show Diana the person to as opposed to the persona Diana, Princess of Wales which I was so professional at exhibiting
for public consumption. He, like my closest family members and Paul Burrell, knew me.
First of all I want to thank him for being upfront and honest and it is so refreshing to see someone believing
in and openly saying so that there was a future for Dodi and I. As I have said on my site, we would have married! The
ring chosen from an engagement collection would hardly therefore have been one purchased to signify friendship
though Dodi and I would have had as the basis of our union, similarly as Catherine and William do, friendship. Stephen
very clearly illustrates as to why he senses we'd have shared a future together though I would have consulted my boys
initially naturally before making any plans but in accepting the woman who makes their father happy similarly knowing
that to see Mummy genuinely happy again would have been a great joy for them both, something they'd have
celebrated! Dodi would never have tried to take Charles's place in their lives as Camilla hasn't endeavoured to replace
me. Stephen speaks about my speaking to Richard from Paris, just six hours before I died, a lengthy precis about this
featured on my site naturally. Another reason I am so grateful to him for speaking out as so much of what he says
confirms things said by me to Rose in the After - Life interviews or is intimated at by me, if not said directly. Likewise,
of course, in my channeled book and amongst the channeled messages. Certainly it all in keeping with my always saying
there being a need to read in between the lines with me. I learned as best I could the real need to protect myself and
secure my personal interests.
He speaks clearly about Sarah (Fergie) and I in implicit honesty and notice that neither of us were
mentioned once throughout the recent Diamond Jubilee Celebrations and before this during the Golden ones. Not that
we ought to have stolen the limelight from Her Majesty but making very clear that, apart from in my case my boys and
I believe even Charles, better best forgotten seems an appropriate reason why! Stephen again makes clear as I have
said that following our divorce, Charles and I had a much more cordial relationship with each other and stating why
when married we didn't. He also addresses the liaisons I had with James, Hasnat and Oliver and in the case of the latter
draws attention to the fact that more than likely I was not responsible for all the calls made to the Hoare household
though all conveniently made from the vicinity of my home. It meant to be believed that in the dark of the night I
would take myself to public phone' boxes to make those calls. Imagine had I been seen doing so and Kensington is
pretty central and a tourist trap both day and night!
Another supposed scandal of Harry not being Charles's son and William's full blood brother. He, born
September 15th 1984, was conceived over Christmas 1983 so when my husband and I were at Windsor and then
Sandringham with other members of the family. I'm quite sure security would have picked up James scaling the walls
of Windsor Castle or escaping from my window into the Castle grounds-- but actually our affair not beginning until
Autumn 1986! In 2002 James himself in a newspaper interview saying "There really is no possibility whatsoever that I
am Harry's father. I can absolutely assure you that I am not. Admittedly the red hair is similar to mine and people say
we look alike. I have never encouraged these comparisons and although I was with Diana for a long time I must state
once and for all that I'm not Harry's father. When I met Diana, he was already a toddler.” Have a look at my sister
Sarah, looking so like him and sporting a Spencer family trait-- red hair.
However I am amazed the older Harry becomes the more he resembles Charles, minus the ears. Sorry, Charles darling!
Stephen is someone I would so like to connect with again as he will immediately recognise, like Penny Thornton
and Andrew Morton did, that I kept my promise that "She won't go quietly" and so consequently Diana speaks!"
With love from,
Link about the book: http://www.dianahertransformation.co.uk/
Date Posted 02-05-13
Most recently I have been drawn to reading a Diana Book " The Diana Chronicles " by Tina Brown who knew Diana
personally and there are some points it draws attention to that I feel merit being documented.
In July 1997 Tina says she met up with her friend Diana who told her that she had been discussing the idea of
making television documentary films promoting her work on behalf of victims of landmines, leprosy, H.I.V./A.I.D.S. Tina
saying for a woman in her personal and emotional life ruled by her heart that she was an excellent executive knowing
how to make things happen and how to run a team.Tina makes a very valid point that at 911, the devastating
tsunamis, the Pakistan earthquake, Hurricane Katrina, the Japanese nuclear tragedy and more recently the extensive
London riots that Diana would have been first on the scenes and bringing publicity and cameras with her and reports
guaranteed to have been watched with a spotlight focus on individual survivors telling of their personal experiences.
As Diana said herself, "Knowledge is Power" and in doing her homework thoroughly she therefore wielded it on
subjects concerning and involving her personally directly.
No doubt at the Olympics held last year in London she woud have been greatly supporting the Para-olympic
Games, as her younger son Harry was seen especially doing! Both her sons tread their mother's footsteps not merely
follow them in so many positive ways! William determining her memory would be remembered and honoured at his
marriage to Catherine with the opening hymn "Guide Me O Thou Great Redeemer" one of Diana's favourites, the one
which closed her funeral service also at Westminster Abbey where the now Duke and Duchess of Cambridge married
and at Diana's Memorial Service in 2007 marking the 10th Anniversary of her death. Catherine's engagement ring
being originally Diana's, no more poignant a ring could William have chosen to be worn by the other woman he
It noted by Tina that caught by the close - circuit cameras inside the Ritz Hotel in Paris on Diana's initial arrival
there the evening of August 30th her facial expression one of displeasure as noticed by her favourite photographer
Arthur Edwards who recognised the look after many years of capturing her in his cameras lens so refusing to look at
a camera intentionally that night. Diana on her site speaks of how she felt hunted and was most eager to stay the
night at the hotel and away from the pack of hunters eager to catch their prey; flying back to the U.K. and to her boys
the following day, ironically August 31st 1997.
Some people, including friends of Diana as well as biographers, are convinced that for Diana Dodi Fayed was just a
summertime romance and would have soon been forgotten by her and this includes Tina. Others, like Stephen
Twigg, sense they meant far more to each other which is certainly the impression I have in channeling her. Who am I
to question what I am told-- but the truth is the answer we will never truly know as it was one fated to remain hidden
from us and is consequently insignificant. What is significant is that clearly in photos we witnessed that with Dodi
Diana found emotional happiness during her last summer and that is a realisation to treasure as prior to this
suffering, heartache and disappointment in her relationships; excepting the bond shared with her adored boys! It was
this sacred trinity and her work which truly sustained Diana! William and Harry whilst royal and steered into adulthood
by their father who has allowed them to be themselves in many ways and not solely be bound to behave according to
duty, protocol and tradition, were raised with their mother's hands-on warmth and informality.
The successful, winning combination of both aspects is illustrated by them being "People Princes", honouring public
duties and sincere involvement in charity work.